A person who is born again and who has the Spirit of Jesus Christ in him is focused on Jesus all the time. He is TUNED IN to the Holy Spirit, in him, and He follows the guidance of the Holy Spirit in everything that he does. His whole life is determined by the Spirit of God because he LISTENS and he FOLLOWS Jesus Christ. He seeks the will of God all the time.
But the natural person, normal person goes after the desires of his flesh, those things that give him pleasure. He tries to fit in with the world, with other people. He tries to please his wife, his children, his boss, his family, his friends, and that takes him away from Jesus Christ. People practice hobbies, they have certain passions in life, things that interest them. (TV, sports, video games...) That is the flesh. Those are the things that take our focus off Jesus Christ.
If we are not focused on Jesus and the kingdom of God and being pleasing to Jesus, then we turn our back on Him, we get busy with other things and that is when we lose Jesus. The apostle Paul wrote in Romans 8:14 that those who are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God. If we live according to our flesh, the desires of our flesh, then we cannot please God and we will perish, but if we by being tuned in to Jesus, LISTEN to the Holy Spirit and DO the WILL OF GOD, then we will LIVE.
The difference between a child of God and the rest is that a child of God is tuned in to the Spirit of God and CHOOSES to do the will of God even if he upsets other people, even if they reject him, even if he gets penalized. But if we seek to please people and run after our own desires we will perish.
The question is: Do we actively seek Jesus and do His will or are we feeding the flesh, our own flesh and the flesh of others? Who are we trying to please, Jesus or the flesh?
May Jesus bless you.